Frieda M. Urueta

Death is Nothing at All
By Canon Henry Scott-Holland

Death is nothing at all,
I have only slipped away
into the next room.
I am I, and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
that we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
speak to me in the easy way
which you have always used to.
Put no difference in your tone,
wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was,
let it be spoken without effect,
without a trace of shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was;
there is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?
I am waiting for you, for an interval
somewhere very near,
Just around the corner.
All is well.
Nothing is past; nothing is lost
One brief moment and all will be as it was before
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!

Frieda Urueta survived by her one true love her great great grandson Zayden. Even on her worst days he would lite up her world and give her the strength of being young, healthy and well.

Phebie as some of us called her was a Mother, Grandmother, Great grandmother and a Great Great Grandmother. She grew up in a small town in Kansas with her mother and father and her 13 brothers and sisters. She always talked about how much she loved her mamma. Well on April 14th at 1:10 am her mother and god made a long long trip to meet her at her bedside. She was kissed on the cheek by both and was greeted with smiles and joy. She was able to open her star light blue eyes and feel no more pain, she was hole again. God and her mother took her by the hand and led her home to a beautiful place far far away. Frieda left behind 4 children Sharon Gentry, Karen Mehalovitz, Donna Haight and Darryn Urueta. Sharon was her care taker for most of her time she had left and boy did she chase her around. Sharon I need my nails done, Sharon I need to get my hair done, Sharon I need groceries, Sharon I need my wine. But most of all at the End Sharon I love you and that's what mattered most. Her favorite was always choppie her little boy choppie choppie choppie , and Donna her phone buddy then Karen her special little girl. If you look back on it her children were her life she may not have said I love you very often but in her own little way she said to them all I love you with her own little twist. Her family was far and few but what she did have she loved and we all loved her. Not all the time did we all get along or like one another, but the pure definition of family is to have ups and downs, name calling, laughter, smiles, love, and never being alone.

Frieda was afraid to be alone but she made sure she never was even to the end. She had her special little moments with each and every person in the family. She had her jokes that would shock us all or make us look at her embarrassed that such a little old lady would say something of the sort. We will all have our memories, our times our thoughts our I wish I did this but in the end we all know in our hearts what she meant to us and the things we did with her.
Freda was a Grandmother to: Ronald Aguilar, Sabrina Wieman and Leanne Haight.
A Great Grandmother to: Andrew Aguilar, Tristalynn Aguilar and Kea Aguilar
And a great great grandmother to Zayden Aguilar.

We all have our faults and she had hers but I didn't mean that we loved her any less it just meant that each bond she had was special and it was her own way of showing us her affection. She will be greatly missed and will always be in our hearts and minds. The one thing all of us need to know though is that she is not gone she is simply taking a long HUM and when it is our turn to take one too we will wake up with her waiting for us with open arms and love. We will never be alone, she will never be alone for we have family as we walk hand in hand arm in arm and most of all we have God.


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